I used the word “hard” 246 times in my first draft. My editor told me to pick a different word. But looking back, I think my subconscious knew exactly what it was doing.

This book was born out of late nights, deep prayers, and years of wrestling with a question I couldn’t shake: Why do so many of us feel lost and inadequate even when we’re doing everything we’re supposed to be doing?

I’d spent decades leading — in the military, in boardrooms, in nonprofits, at home — and I’d been told the same thing everyone gets told: find your purpose, chase your purpose, build your life around your purpose. But the relentless pursuit of purpose wasn’t giving me peace. It was giving me anxiety, confusion, and self-doubt.

So I stopped chasing. And I started listening.

What I found changed everything: purpose shifts across the seasons of your life, but God’s promises are eternal. When you anchor your identity in what’s been promised rather than what you’re performing, something profound happens. You stop striving. You start resting. And from that rest, a different kind of leadership — a different kind of life — becomes possible.

The book is structured in three parts:

Part One: The Purpose Paradox — Why our culture’s obsession with purpose is creating more anxiety than alignment, and what happens when we stop treating purpose as a destination.

Part Two: Why We Idolize Purpose — An honest look at the ways we’ve made purpose an idol — tying our identity, our worth, and our sense of calling to a moving target that was never meant to hold that weight.

Part Three: Living in God’s Promises — A guide to releasing the burden of purpose and embracing the peace that comes from resting in what God has already spoken over your life.

Every chapter closes with reflection questions and prayers designed for both private contemplation and group study. This isn’t a book you rush through. It’s one you sit with.

• You’ve been chasing purpose and still feel lost.

• You’re leading well on the outside but burning out on the inside.

• You’re in a season of transition and nothing feels clear.

• You’ve tied your identity to your role and you’re not sure who you are without it.

• You want to lead from peace, not pressure.

• You’re ready to stop performing your purpose and start resting in what’s been promised.

Check out a guest blog post, hosted by Hannah Rowen Fry I explore why our identity shouldn’t be focused on our accomplishments, but instead in God’s promises. Please read this encouraging article on Hannah Rowen Fry’s website by clicking HERE.

Check out a guest blog post, hosted by Twyla Franz, a Called Creatives colleague. She let me share about the unparalleled, transformative power of God’s promises. Please read this encouraging article on Twyla Franz’s website.